The fear of what could happen generally holds us back far more than what really does happen. We tend to find more evidence to support our negative beliefs than our optimism. Therefore we learn to live in a safe bubble. It’s appropriate when it serves you well but once you have out grown it you resent the orb around you.
I’ve taken a lesson from my martial arts and used the principle in my life “it’s the action that gets the result.” If you wait for the perfect time it will never happen. I often see my martial arts students waiting to execute their practiced technique only to find their timing is wrong and it doesn’t work. Although they are honing their skills in a gym, when they are presented with a scenario on the street, it has to work first time.
When I started my three peaks challenge I learnt more from my first step than the map I was reading. I had to be prepared to stay safe, I had provisions, I had direction and I had a support network on the end of the phone. The only thing that would have stopped me completing my challenge was not to take the first step. What was I frightened of, apart from failing?
What would motivate you to overcome your fear?
If you had everything you needed what would stop you?
Extract from the book “Understanding The Mirror” written by Mike Bowden pages 166-167 http://www.changingoutcomes.co.uk/