The fear of what could happen generally holds us back far more than what really does happen. We tend to find more evidence to support our negative beliefs than our optimism. Therefore we learn to live in a safe bubble. It’s appropriate when it serves you well but once you have out grown it you resent the orb around you.
I’ve taken a lesson from my martial arts and used the principle in my life “it’s the action that gets the result.” If you wait for the perfect time it will never happen. I often see my martial arts students waiting to execute their practiced technique only to find their timing is wrong and it doesn’t work. Although they are honing their skills in a gym, when they are presented with a scenario on the street, it has to work first time.
When I started my three peaks challenge I learnt more from my first step than the map I was reading. I had to be prepared to stay safe, I had provisions, I had direction and I had a support network on the end of the phone. The only thing that would have stopped me completing my challenge was not to take the first step. What was I frightened of, apart from failing?
What would motivate you to overcome your fear?
If you had everything you needed what would stop you?
Extract from the book “Understanding The Mirror” written by Mike Bowden pages 166-167 http://www.changingoutcomes.co.uk/
A great quote from the American founder of the Ford Motor Company Henry Ford
"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got" and it is so true. If we want change then we have to change something in our life. If you change one detail then it’s surprising what a difference it makes.
A friend of mine always left home at 8.30am to take the children to school before work. He would get frustrated by the queues of traffic on the school lane. He would then struggle to get parked at the school gates, and then once again fight his way through the traffic to get to work on time. The whole episode was a stressful experience and would put him in a bad mood for the rest of the day.
He decided to change his routine. He began to leave his home at 8.15am, park his car at the end of the school lane and walked the children to school. He enjoyed the exercise and smiled at the other motorists stuck in the mayhem. He would take the children into school, then walk or sometimes jog back to his car, before the onward journey. He would still get to work at the same time, but he felt refreshed and ready for his working day. His mood was different because he did something different.
If you could do just one thing different today, what would it be?
Can you make this a new standard in your life?
Extract from the book “Understanding The Mirror” written by Mike Bowden pages 114-115 http://www.changingoutcomes.co.uk/