When we think of lifestyle and the choices it offers, our first thoughts often turn to how we should carve out more leisure time to do all the things we feel are passing us by. We get frustrated by the sea-saw of work life balance and start to resent all the obstacles in our way.
In the equation we very rarely focus on lifestyle choices within our workplace and how we can gain some of the missing gratification that’s readily available on a daily basis. As either an employee or an employer, often we see the workplace as a process that gives us a means to an end rather than an integral part of our overall wellbeing.
Therefore, why can’t we allow our place of employ to have a personality of its own, to become a living, breathing entity that satisfies some of our lifestyle requirements? Work life balance should never be about compromise, as they can exist in the same space at the same time. Bringing to life a workplace so it has a heartbeat, a warm spirit and a genuine persona that people can have a relationship with is as important as the bonds held with friends and family.
Previous companies that have held me in their employ for the long term didn’t do so through pay rises or promotion, but more so due to the sense of belonging. If we can transform a system driven environment with structures and strategies into an authentic creature with a pulse and purpose, we will not only attract like minded employees to engage in the culture, but also gain the buy in from enthusiastic customers, everyone wins.
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Isn't it strange how one person sees a task as a chore, whereas someone else sees it as a challenge, yet it is the same task?
Isn't it strange how one person sees a task as a chore, whereas someone else sees it as a challenge, yet it is the same task? Attitude controls our perception and installs our passion. It will either make us receptive or defensive.
We generally consider the word "attitude" to be a negative trait, but if you take attitude in the correct context, it can be a very powerful motivator to strive and achieve. Someone with a positive attitude will drive forward taking obstacles in their stride, creating opportunities and changing outcomes. Someone with a negative attitude can create barriers to be defensive and sabotage change.
Naturally in our daily life we sit somewhere in the middle. Circumstances, stimuli and emotions, can all be factors that determine our attitude at any specific time. Being mindful that we have the power to affect our attitude, it will ultimately determine the outcome. It is interesting to consider that we can control our attitude rather than letting our attitude control us. Are we a passenger in our vehicle of life or are we the driver? The choice is yours.
I believe emotion to be a reactive state brought on by what has happened. Therefore attitude is our conscious effort to make something happen. It is proactive and within our control to change the future. Everyone must have a reason to do something, whether that to be through choice or necessity but attitude creates our passion and our desire.
Extract from the book “Understanding The Mirror” written by Mike Bowden pages 149-151 http://www.changingoutcomes.co.uk/
A great quote from the American founder of the Ford Motor Company Henry Ford
"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got" and it is so true. If we want change then we have to change something in our life. If you change one detail then it’s surprising what a difference it makes.
A friend of mine always left home at 8.30am to take the children to school before work. He would get frustrated by the queues of traffic on the school lane. He would then struggle to get parked at the school gates, and then once again fight his way through the traffic to get to work on time. The whole episode was a stressful experience and would put him in a bad mood for the rest of the day.
He decided to change his routine. He began to leave his home at 8.15am, park his car at the end of the school lane and walked the children to school. He enjoyed the exercise and smiled at the other motorists stuck in the mayhem. He would take the children into school, then walk or sometimes jog back to his car, before the onward journey. He would still get to work at the same time, but he felt refreshed and ready for his working day. His mood was different because he did something different.
If you could do just one thing different today, what would it be?
Can you make this a new standard in your life?
Extract from the book “Understanding The Mirror” written by Mike Bowden pages 114-115 http://www.changingoutcomes.co.uk/
One thing that did have a huge impact on my life was to change the language I used. Rather than say something was good, I changed it to say it was great. Rather than saying my day was okay, I changed it to say it was brilliant. Just by changing the words to carry a stronger emotion made me believe that it was true.
If you tell yourself that something is bad enough times you believe yourself. The subconscious part of the brain can’t rationalise language. It believes what it is told. The conscious part of the brain allows logic, how we interpret and process facts. Therefore by using more positive emotion words, you can lift your mood and your subconscious brain believes it to be true.
Try it the next time you speak to someone and they ask how your day is. Rather than saying that your day is okay, tell them with enthusiasm how brilliant it is and watch their reaction. Generally people will influence the behaviour of others around them. The words you use can be the catalyst for something better.
Body posture had a huge effect on my attitude and persona. A song that constantly played through my head until my subconscious brain believed it. It was a song from my childhood sung by Val Doonican called “Walk Tall”.
“Walk tall, walk straight and look the world right in the eye. That’s what my mama told me when I was about knee high. She said son be a proud man and hold your head up high. Walk tall, walk straight and look the world right in the eye”.
Whenever I stoop and hide my face, whenever I drop my glaze and try to hide in the crowd, good old Val starts singing to me from his famous rocking chair.
Next time you read a book try the same posture. Read a section hunched over the pages and then again with your head up and shoulders back. Although the words are the same it’s amazing how you will interpret the text in a different way. You will change your task from a chore to a pleasure and register the content more easily.
Now try the same thing when you talk to other people. Allow your back to straighten and forehead to lift. Pull your shoulders back and smile. There are so many books written on body language and posture, yet we all fail to adopt these techniques in our everyday life. Even when you talk to people on the telephone, your posture determines your tone and how your message is received by others.
Extract from the book “Understanding The Mirror” by Mike Bowden pages 103-105 http://www.changingoutcomes.co.uk/