Have you reached the top of your career or personal ladder and are now wondering what happens next?
Your inner most thoughts, doubts and passions tend to get shared with your circle of family and friends, but they may not be the right people to champion your cause. They may not be the objective people that you need to help you make your dream happen.
Whether you are the Managing Director of a company or the latest apprentice you can feel lonely at your individual pinnacle. You can even feel lonely in a crowded room or in a loving relationship if something is bothering you, something that you can’t share. If left unattended the problem can fester and escalate until it controls you rather than you controlling the problem.
Often we reach an impasse when challenging words or challenging thoughts stand between us and the next goal.
Typically people use me as a confidential sounding board to either share what is bothering them or to help them plan the future. I help clients to have the difficult conversations either with themselves or other people and create an understanding of what needs to be said.
In the pursuit of a goal, your inner critic can sometimes hamper your progress far more than any physical barrier and often you can feel irrational talking to your nearest and dearest, so finding someone to offload your concerns can be an added burden. Finding someone to share your enthusiasm and determination can be even harder.
When a company is created the motivation is most commonly financial, but as the company grows it always means something more than that, it becomes emotional. How would you feel in 30 years time when you sell your business and the new owner dissects the company and ruins your reputation, would you be distraught?
Many people would like to leave a legacy, their mark on this world.
Creating a suitable successor to your vision or your work can sometimes be left to chance, but the inspired few take proactive steps to develop a sustainable legacy. Again it can feel “lonely at the top” being in conflict with your logical and emotional thoughts. This is where I can help my clients to gain clarity and find ways to pass on their life’s vision and create a legacy in their own life time.
Everyone’s plans and aspirations can create a legacy that makes others remember you, whether that’s for commercial or personal reasons, so why leave it to chance?
Understanding the Mirror is a book written with the aim of supporting people to get a better understanding of their character and then use this knowledge in order to become a better version of themselves. It is split into two main sections, in the first half of his book; Mike Bowden gives a heartfelt and blow by blow revelation of how his life and family fell apart and his demise into a deep depression. He explains well the feelings of anxiety that many people reading this book may well be able to relate to. His writing style is relaxed and informal and as such is easy to follow and more importantly to understand.
He explains the journey to rock bottom and then how he starts to rise slowly out of the mire to become the man he is today. The second half of the book is split into to 7 chapters, each named after a day of the week. The idea behind the 7 days is that you can only take so much information in on one day, by splitting it down you can read the current day of the week and put into practice what you can, then when you are ready, be that the next day, or a week later you can then move onto the next. Using his personal experience these chapters are filled with inspiration, ideas and tasks that will hopefully have the same impact on the reader.
What do you see when you look in the mirror? If you are unsure then maybe you should follow in the shoes of Mike Bowden and see if you can better understand your own character in order to become a better version of yourself too.
Written by Safaraz Ali - Pathway Group
It’s only when we drop the ball or smash a plate that we realise that something has to give and often it’s at the expense of our health, confidence or self-esteem.
Upon reflection it’s easy to see where one’s priorities and time are spent, but when you are in the midst of the crisis it’s often difficult to recognise the warning signs which you face on a daily basis. Compounded by the stresses we endure, these breaking points can creep up on us unawares and create a domino effect on our performance and wellbeing.
Which plate will you drop first and how will it affect the eco-system of your world? When one plate stops spinning and smashes to the floor, it’s likely that your focus will be on the next crisis, rather than on what you need to do to cope.
The most common problem my clients are faced with, is how to manage their time effectively. They focus on saving time but they end up using this time, for more of what they were trying to avoid. It becomes a perpetual cycle of chasing their own tail. Procrastination can have disastrous consequences. We place all of our attention on “not doing” so guess what we don’t do?
Some people often don’t realise the obstacles they face until they have an opportunity to talk freely to me about their situation. So when we begin to work together, my clients are quite astounded at how quickly and radically things improve for them. I create a confidential space for people to discuss what is worrying them and how we can find a solution together. Some of my clients use me as a sounding board, to bounce ideas off. For others, I provide approaches for how they can successfully manage their time, or integrate changes into their businesses and/or personal lives.